Verbal abuse can and is often more damaging than physical abuse. You are correct-you cannot hide it from the children and the damage that it does is extremely toxic. If you believe that there is something there that could be salvaged, I would certainly give it a last attempt. If there was no apparent chance for resolution, I would consider a separation. If you do decide to part the means that you use has a huge impact on the children. It is important to keep the boundaries strictly enforced. There are parent things; family things; and children things and they should be kept separated. Best wishes and good luck. Remember to respect yourself and not allow yourself to be abused.
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