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my 4 year old grand daughter is having her 6th melt down of

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my 4 year old grand daughter is having her 6th melt down of the afternoon. The moment she perceives that things are not what she wants them to be, or she gets a "no" or something goes wrong for her - like her 2 year old sister picking up the doll she's just been playing with, she dissolves in tears and shouts and performs about it. Her recovery is good, in that she will recognise that she's over reacted or behaved unacceptably, but it doesn't last for long especially when she sees that it's not going to achieve her outcome, just because she's now not performing. She has a sweet, kind and giving nature - a very vivid imagination and is generally a very loving child.
my question is - how I can support her and her parents, what my response could be both when I'm alone with her and when the rest of the family is around.
thank you - Sarah
Submitted: 5 years ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  Dr. Rossi replied 5 years ago.

Good Morning,

 

It sounds like you have a little temper tanrumer on your hands. She is possibly testing you to see how far she could get away with something when mom and dad are not there. Grandchildren ,may also perceive the grandparent as a secondary disciplinarian to the parents.

It would be helpful to have a routine with her and to enforce the same consequences that her mom and dad would have when she displays the undesirable behavior.

If you decide to do a time out as a consequence, about 3-4 minutes for her age is the appropriate time. It helps if you do not engage her verbally when she is in the time out and ignore the negative behavior(s). To children even getting attention when they misbehave (consequence) is still getting attention. She would try to redirect your attention back to her from the other sibling at all costs. That is understandable in a toddler.

 

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Customer: replied 5 years ago.

time out is all very well and good, but what happens if we're in a public place and there is nowhere to go for time out, or her behaviour is even endangering herself, her sibling etc. eg on the road-side. My difficulty is that I don't know why it's happening - it doesn't seem to be just about attention... she's already got that.

Expert:  Dr. Rossi replied 5 years ago.

If you are out in public there could be the possibility of time out on a bench or any place where she could stay for several minutes. Consequences have to be immediate and age related. You could use another consequence (you know her best and what she would find unpleasant reinforcer)

Her behavior is not unusual for a middle child syndrome and a toddler. If you are suspecting other issues, she could be evaluated by a child psychologist.

It would be essential for her parents to be consistent in her consequences at home and to also let her know that the same rules apply when she is with you. Everyone taking care of her must be on the same page.

 

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