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Since how long has he been behaving in this manner with you ?
did this kind of behaviour from his side started after an argument or verbal spat with or did it start on its own ?
has this kind of abusive behaviour been shown by him in the past as well ?
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Well, your boyfriend has been bringing the same abusive lifestyle which he had seen as a kid in his house with his parents involved, and this kind of emotional and physical abuse are found to influence children a lot , specially when they see this happening in their own household , so quite naturally your boyfriend has been acting like this because he does not know any better to act than this , and this is very unfrotunate and sad for you to bear the brunt of his physical and verbal abuse , and such kind of behaviour is despicable and to be condemned .
However , if you want to give him a second but, last chance , before you eventually decide to end this traumatic abusive relationship , then i would suggest that you and him need to go through relationship counseling from a relationship expert , but before you do this , it has to be a firm decision from your part to see that this abuse comes to an end , either by ending this relationship or by him being sorry for his past ruthless acts against you and mending his ways for good and permanently and make sure that he gets to know about your firm decision behind seeking counseling with him and also tell him that you had enough of this abuse ,and if he does not work with you in rebuilding the already strained relationship , then , you will be compelled to opt out of the relationship.
He also needs to take individual psychotherapy ( counseling in lay terms ) in the form of Cognitive behavioural therapy ( CBT ) from a seasoned psycholgist to help him come to terms with his traumatic childhood and to develop techniques for calming himself down in pressure and stressful situations and not to loose his cool and not to over-react and also preventing his past to get the better of him , thus preventing the abuse from him.
However, if you feel ,that you have already done what i have mentioned above a number of times , without any fruitful result , then i would suggest that you need to move out of his company , if not permanently , but atleast for a temporary period of time , so that you can think and rethink about the fact that where your relationship is heading to , and whether you can survive long enough if he does not stop his abuse or change his mannerisms and actions , so in other words you need to spend some time alone , away from him , to introspect about your relationship and its future , giving much importance to your health and safety.
I hope this helps..
I wish you all the best.
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