First you are not a bad woman to be sure, you became involved in a relation based on deception from the other party. You cannot blame yourself for being naive which you were, not evil. So many people have used the excuse "the marriage is over" to start extramarital affairs and you were not aware when you entered into the relation Yes you were used and if there is evil it belongs to him, not to you the victim. You may stop feeling so powerless by taking a more assertive approach and tell him to cease contact and if he does not you will either file harassment charges or obtain an order of protection. I would suggest a brief course of psychotherapy to rebuild your ego strength and lessen the depression. If the pain and suffering is too great your therapist will suggest a psychiatric evaluation for the possible use of antidepressant medication. Again you are not evil, did nothing wrong and will eventually come out of this stronger and wiser. Best Wishes and Good Luck.
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