There are at least two options that you can take to deal with your flying phobia. Benzodiapines are quite effective anxiolytics-anti anxiety drugs, however they have a high addiction potential, so if you are not a frequent flier then a benzodiazapine like Xanax or Valium may be quite appropriate. It is something you will need to discuss with your primary care physician or he/she may refer you to a psychiatrist for medication. If you are a frequent flier then a different approach maybe required. The first is psychotherapy which is very effective for anxiety. The particular type of psychotherapy is called Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). This can be conducted by any licensed mental health professional experienced in CBTT you learn new ways of thinking and behaving and thus there is a change in the way you feel (less anxiety). In addition to CBT,a different type of medication has been approved for anxiety and there are two types: The SSRI's like Zoloft and Celexa or the SNRI like Effexor. Both of these types of antidepressants have significant anti anxiety effects. Please note that these medications require 3-6 weeks to take effect. Good Luck and Best Wishes.
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I respect your feelings toward the use of drugs and it appears that a risk benefit analysis which you have apparently done leads you to the conclusion that drugs are inappropriate-so that rules out the use of medications. Where I would have to take issue is in the effectiveness of psychodynamic oriented psychotherapy as opposed to behaviorally oriented psychotherapy. Evidence based studies have pointed to the effectiveness of CBT. However I do agree that any form of psychotherapy is a preferred first option and either type is effective. My bias (based upon research, training and experience) points to a narrow behavioral goal directed approach. Again given your thoughts and feelings I would have to agree that psychodynamics may be most effective.
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