You've already started the most important things: getting medical and psychological help. If you're in the US, most counties have financial counseling for free or a low fee available.
I recommend that you make out a spreadsheet with all the things you need to do everyday and then check them off as you're doing them. You can even do the same with the children. It'll help you during this time of change, and will provide you with the discipline that you're having trouble with.
Put all the things you need to do...even the small ones, like eating and sleeping
, taking meds, making your bed, getting the kids ready on time. It's a way to see your success and be motivated to keep at it. Discipline works wonders, and it's a skill that anyone can learn.
Get connected to online support groups and blogs. Share your story with other women. It'll make you feel validated and sane, and let you know you're not alone. Hang in there. Keep doing the next right thing. When the chips are down...go to your list and do something on it. Structure your life so that you'll have direction, and then keep taking your meds and working with your treatment professionals. You can do this, and now you've got the help. Go for it and make a committment to yourself and your kids.DID support group letterSupport group list
Don't let your trauma define the rest of your life - it's stolen too much already. You can take control, one step at a time. Hang in there- you're worth it!