Thanks for the reply..
Well, you must have heard the saying ' once bitten twice shy ' , just dwelling on this further , i would like to explain your condition , you see , according to me , since you are a responsible single mom , who is involved in taking care of your two little angels , so like any concerned parent , you want the best atmosphere at home to bring them up , this also includes the parenting of your partner , so it is just that since you had a failed marriage , and now that you are seeing this man as a potential partner , so when you are not with him , you are just thinking of the pros and cons , in order to you go ahead with him to then next level, i feel this is very much normal , as you are not only accountable for your own future right now , but also for your kids future as well, so it is quite justified to introspect and think deeply about yours and your kids future with this man, i do not see any problem there , so please do not feel that you are acting rude to him or not giving much time to him , you have your job , and kids , and household chores to look into , so in a way your hands are completely full, plus every one wants some time for their own self also , so whenever he is not around you just get engrossed in your duties as the head of the family , while also spending some time intorspecting into the future of the relationship , and spending some time with yourself , so all this seems to be perfectly normal . in fact i believe , if you are a type a personality , then you are doing a fine job in balancing your priorities with your love life , but as they say , you cannot make everyone happy all the time .
So, just talk about all this , that is your busy schedule , single parenting , with this man and give some time to your relationship , since this is a potential relationship that you are looking forward to after your previous marriage , so quite naturally you will be taking much more time to develop absolute fondness for this guy , as you also have your kids involved now , which was not the case earlier .
So, if you want , you can meet a relationship expert , but i feel what you are doing is fine , you just have to express your self to your boyfriend about your limitations in your relationship , and the fact that you are responsible for rearing two small kids , and that you will appreciate it if he understands your predicament , and helps you take it slow , but make sure to tell him that you are fond of his company and look forward to your meeting with him.
I hope this helps..
I wish you all the best..
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