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Well, it is so nice to see that in this materialistic and self centered world , there are still people like you who are so kind and affectionate and concerned about someone else's welfare .
Now , coming back to the problem , well it does seem from your narration that your friend is so smitten and madly in love with this person , that she has lost her self esteem and objectivity , and her priority that is her daughter has taken a back seat .
It is quite suggestive from the behaviour of this man , that he is just using her and exploiting her to the fullest , but , your friend has literally chosen not to see this aspect of his , for reasons she knows best.
So, as a friend , the most you can do is that you can counsel her on a one to one basis , and enlighten her and ,make her aware of her priorities and her important role of a mother and rearing a child to a secure future , which as of now , seems to be moving towards a dark zone . You can also ask her to do some introspection about her acts and do self analysis , and come out with an honest result about her behaviour in the recent past . I am sure you must have done this a many times , without any success , so there is no harm in asking her to do this a last time, for your sake .
Along with this, ask her to go to a relationship expert along with her boyfriend ,to achieve a stable relationship between the two , i am sure she will be more than willing to take a plunge into this therapy , and will be able to convince her boyfriend also to accompany her , and once she does this , it will act as an eye opener for your friend , as at the end of the therapy , one of the two things she will realize , that are , first , that both of them do not have a future together , so it is better that they part ways , and second, if they decide to stick together , then how to overcome such fickle separations on and off and consolidate the relationship.
So, in either ways , there will be a result which will benefit your friend and her daughter , so just convince her to seek counseling / therapy with her boyfriend from a good relationship expert , and your work will be done .
I hope this helps..
I wish you all the best , and keep up the good work that you are doing .. God bless..
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