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Well, from your post two things are brought into light -- a) you seem to be suffering from Depression ( that is feeling of low mood ,lack of physical energy and lethargy , decreased libido , that is sex drive , inability to feel pleasure that is anhedonia , all these what you have been experiencing are typical features of depression ) , and b ) your dilemma regarding your relationship with your partner . So, here is the solution for both of your problems one at a time .
First of all , let me tell you that a lot of negative and hopeless thoughts which you have been experiencing are attributable to your depression , which probably has stemmed due to your professional and personal drawbacks , so in order to get out of your depressive phase and restart your enjoyable life , i suggest that you get started on 1 anti depressant such as PAXIL CR or EFFEXOR XR or you may start on lexapro also , as prescribed by your doctor , who is on a right track ,as he has appropriately prescribed the drug , which will treat your depression , and eventually you will start feeling much better . You need not be apprehensive about the side effects , as your doctor would start you on a low dose and gradually would increase the dose , according to the needs . So, i recommend use of an anti depressant in your case for your depression , but if you are totally averse to the use of any drug , then the other best alternative is to seek Psychotherapy ( counseling)from a clinical psychologist , and the best psychotherapy for depression is called as Cognitive behavioral therapy ( CBT ).
sO, IF NOT wanting to start on an anti depressant , then you may get started on CBT , and this will help you to deal with depression , as well it will make you more adaptable to the stressful life events .
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Secondly , since your relationship with your partner has become strained over a period of time , so it becomes necessary to rekindle your relationship before it becomes too late to mend , so i suggest that you consult a relationship expert and seek relationship counseling form the therapist , and sort out issues betwen yourselves.
So, you may follow the 2 above mentioned options , and i am quite sure that your problems will be taken care of .
I hope this helps..
I wish you all the best ..
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