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He has began counseling and has been in counseling for two weeks now. I guess my question is more about the relationship post-counseling. Is it a good idea to resume a relationship with him again afterwards? Like I said it is his unresolved issues that caused me to end a relationship that was otherwise really good. And it has been his behavior post-break-up that has made me really unsure of whether I should have relationship with him ever again (cutting suspected tires of people I am seeing, texting me and writing letters confessing his love, etc.)
He has never threatened me or been violent towards me. I know he lost his wife and best friend in the past and he does seem very sensitive to lost. I just feel bad because otherwise he is such a sweet and giving person. It's just his behavior in the relationship seemed rather strange at times (sensitive, needy) and has grown since our break-up.
Thanks so much for response. One last thing... I did request to speak with the counselor and I did actually have a conversation with her over phone. She seemed to feel my presence might not have a good affect on his counseling. What do you think about that? I also know that my family and friends are very much aware of his behavior which is why I asked the question about resuming a relationship with him. They believe I should walk away forever and I guess I just don't feel so absolute about it. I just want him to get help but I don't want him to have false hope nor use us getting back together as a reason to go to counseling.
I just want him to get better on his own and us revisit "us" after he has done so. But how can I do that without giving him false hope or re-focusing back on to me when he should be focused on counseling? He has not contacted me since his last session on Monday, which I am sure the counselor told him not to contact me. I guess in the end I just wanted to know if he contacts me in the future if I should entertain the conversation or see him again. I guess I now feel a little guilty that I did not push counseling prior to the break-up and I really just want to help him since he is an overall nice person but so much as happened now that it is really hard to go back without so much judgement.