Hello again, and you're most welcome; thanks for your reply with additional information.
If you've met your son in law's foster parents and they seem exceptionally loving and caring, he is very lucky, and although his early life was sad
, with losing his mother at such an early age, and not having known his dad for very long, being raised by such good people should have had a positive influence on him.
If the marriage counselors recommended seeing a psychologist if he has psychological issues regarding his early life, etc., he should have followed their advice. However, I think your daughter's actions were very necessary, and I hope after the divorce, things will go better for her. He was causing her too much mental anguish and as we discussed, their constant fighting was very disturbing for the children.
I wish your daughter and her children much good luck in the future, and you are a wonderful mother to help your daughter as much as you have and will continue to do so!
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