Thank you for being such a help to me. I did a lot of reading last night. I can't tell you the relief of someone understanding what I have been through. As you are no doubt aware this hasn't just started. I was lucky enough as a child to have a dear Aunt and Grandmother who saw what was happening and would take me home with them, sometimes for months. I went to school in two states! The normality of their lives and their love saved me I feel. I do have another question for you regarding my Aunt, my mothers sister. My Aunt is 79 and the most wonderful warm caring person. I can still remember 14 years ago when she got her nasty letters and rang me at work, I can still hear her heartbroken sobs.She had 14 family members staying with her and my mother said she felt "rejected". It all fits. She is very troubled over the nasty letter about me and my husband my mother sent to her. She loves us both. Also troubled by the content that a mother could speak of her child the way she did and very troubled why the letter was sent to her. Apparently my mother was going to send me a letter too but my sister stopped her. Could you explain for my Aunt what this was about please. My idea is she was trying to make trouble between my Aunt and myself. Thank you Annie
We need more lovely ladies like you in this world. I read all our contact to my Aunt and after two hours of talk we can both move on. She asked me to thank you.
I have been a bit of a hermit while all this has been going on, however have arranged a small party for my husband's birthday this weekend. My friends were so pleased to hear from me again and we are both feeling excited at seeing them.
You have also encouraged me to always be a mentor not only for kids, but for the beautiful seniors I work with, to listen with a kind heart and hopefully some practical advise if asked. I love how a short encounter with a new contact can change lives, and feel we are all here to help each other in any way we can.
All the best to you Anna, you do a wonderful job.
Anna the other interesting thing I forgot to tell you is after considering the situation from my mothers point of view and her disease is I feel empathy for her and how lonely she must be. Maybe this is my forgiveness. I am sorry I wasn't able to help her or my siblings, I did feel I had escaped a "cult" and had to leave my siblings behind, I do hope they "make it out" too.
All the best
I was so embarrased to tell the other expert and took a big risk for me and I was very upset that he took what my mother was saying was true. It took me a little while to find and trust you. I still feel guilty talking about my parents as we as children were not allowed to express feelings, have an opinion or talk about anything that happened. I did not tell you about my father after the experience with the other expert. I am a bit embarrased you read about my father as I'm so ashamed and I don't know who on the internet is reading this. There is heaps more to the story which I won't go into except I feel my mother was my fathers enabler and rewarded him after each event, at the same time she was complaining to all and sundry about him. I am so glad I've walked out of this madness. Annie