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I am really glad you wrote me tonight.
I am so sorry things aren't getting better. Tell me what you think is going on with him... what are the possibilities?
It's a good thing you both are in counseling - that may help you both to get passed some of the nager. The anger between you is clear.
My first suggestion is to stop expecting your happiness to come from him - create your own internal happiness, and if it's genuine, he can't shake it.
Secondly, don't expect things from him - like that he'll do your laundry - be responsible for yourself.
Finally, work on YOU, don't focus on him - focus on you, your thoughts, feelings, behaviors and life - the more focus you place on him the more crazy you will feel - so focus on you and how you behave, how you just need to be for you. Don't REACT to other people - just act in a manner which you are proud of at all times.
Do you just want to leave him?
Yeah.... it will *never* clobber you over the head.... it's a decision you have to make based on what you want for yourself. It's never an easy decision, but it's not impossible.
I can see your anger and frustration... if you were to put that aside, it sounds like you want it to work more than you want it to end - but that you fear or believe that he wants to it to end more than he wants it to work.
You could always try a trial separation... would that work to help you decide?
When I saw your name, I remembered who you were - but looked up our old conversation just to be sure. I know you are hurting and I can really appreciate that even in that pain, you are reaching out and that deserves recognition.
You deserve better that what you have right now....
You are welcome and I hope to hear back from you soon!