Habits that don't go away typically serve a purpose (which is why they come back over and over).
Depending on what the habit is, I may be able to give you some pointers as to how to work through it.
Is it something you can share with me? Or at least give me a general idea of what it is?
Thank you for telling me - it helps me to help you :-)
A few more questions - if you don't do this - what happens? What do you think and what do you feel?
And has there ever been a time that you stopped doing it?
Thanks for this additional information.
People can become 'addicted' in a very loose sense to thoughts, feelings or behaviors for a few reasons: but in every case - it serves a purpose.
It seems this behavior is where you focus all of your attention in order to deal with feelings. Not just bad feelings - but good feelings as well. It's just like you said - you can't relax until you've cleared it out. But the catch - is that you see it as needing to clear out your eye - when the trigger is actually the feeling. Does that make sense? The "problem" isn't your eye - the problem is your feelings - your emotional feelings. Basically, you are taking all of your feelings and funneling them into your eye. You don't have to deal with feelings while you are focused on your eye.
This cycle can become obsessive - where you might think about it a lot or compulsive- where you can't stop yourself from doing it or feel very uncomfortable if you don't satisfy your urge to do it.
In order to stop the behavior, you have to address the underlying issue.
You said you went to a life coach - have you considered seeing a therapist? A therapist would be the professional of choice to see to fully address this issue.
Keep in mind that any behavior that repeats itself - no matter how undesireable on your part is serving a purpose (otherwise - if it were useless to you - it would go away).
Find a PhD or PsyD Psychologist with whom you really have a connection - someone you really like - and trust, who works with this thought-feeling-behavior cycle.
This is actually an easily treatable issue - in person. It's just a matter of finding out your triggers (emotions - like you stated, or whatever else triggers your desire) and replacing that with constructive emotional (or ___ ) responses.
Hope this helps!
Feel free to ask as many questions as you want - we can continue to discuss this - for days, if you want...
I think you can see PhD's or PsyD's (or the equivilant) through the NHS - but I am not positive - I am in the US, and we don't have that here... but I am sure you could easily find out - don't you think?
Can you ask your regular MD for a referral?
Good. I hope you can find someone easily!
Here is the US, there is no free medical care at all- we have to pay for insurance through our jobs (not everyone has to offer it though) and if you don't have a job like that - insurance is barely affordable.
Insurance pays for about half of what the doctor charges - sometimes a little more.
Insurance does pay for some mental health care - but they limit how many times you can go.
It's a frustrating system as we hear about people who need insurance to pay for some life saving treatment and they refuse... and sometimes people can't afford to pay out of pocket... our givernment has been considering starting a NHS because we have so many people who are not insured and can't afford medical care. Some people are really for it and some say it will take the money out of Dr's pockets.
I have a brother in law who is a radiologist and makes over $1 million USD a year - his salary would be cut - greatly! So of course he's not interested...
I think it would be nice - but do hear that appointments are hard to get quickly...
I understand... let me know what you find out.
It's about 3:30 in the morning here... and I am going to bed now. Email me tomorrow and let me know what you found out!
Sorry! I was so tired.... so where were we? You were going to check into whether or not you could see a psychologist - any luck with that so far?
Thanks, XXXXX XXXXX was great - how about yours?
Can you call your GP today and ask?
I am just hoping you can get a referral to a Psychologist nearby. Is that a possibility?
Okay -- let me know...
My weekend was great - how was yours?
Start with the surgery's counselors and if you don't really connect with the first person - see if there is someone else.... go through all of them if you have to - but find someone who (1) you really like and connect with and (2) is helping.
Great! Let me know how it goes!