Thank you so much :-)
He is living alone.
In the last 2 years he has pretty much alienated ALL friends and relatives (accept for my sister and myself)
My father, for all intents and purposes, has retired from the Hollywood Film Industry as a Production Designer I think since the age of 55-58. His other immediate family members were also in the industry, including my grandfather who was a character actor. I know for a fact that my grandmother was often verbally abusive and had a chemical imbalance.
Dad was always the "fun and exciting" parent, although EXTREMELY unpredictable as a personality. A drama queen to be sure, with rarely forethought on how he affects people with his sometimes twisted commentary.
He has been trying to continue living the "hollywood" dream (small "h") for years now (but he functions as if the industry is the same as when he was a viable participant) The poor guy can't even work a cell phone or pay his bills on time and yet he claims to be on the verge of some huge production) He always had the aspiration to be the director/producer (which he did
have several opportunities to do) He fantasizes and over-states relationships he's had with past companies and famous coworkers. Always talking about the next big project he's working on, how this time "it's going to happen" etc. It never does because he always wants EVERYTHING the way he feels it should be. He is right and everyone else doesn't know what he or she is talking about. When he doesn't get what he wants he pretty much sabotages the relationship in some way. Everything is a "competition"
Over the years he has come in contact with many characters, some reputable, some not-so and sometimes bad deals happen due to his seemingly always desperation.
When everything including family relationships goes south, his misfortune is ALWAYS due to EVERYONE ELSE. Now, while also blaming his 3 wives (of which my sister and I are close) he has taken upon himself to be angry with the two of our husbands and us.
He recently played out a dangerous bet and took the couple of the million he had and poured it into 3-4 high-end properties, thinking that when this "next movie" gets made, he's going to cover all his costs and become a huge sensation.
Well...the bank is repossessing; he is losing EVERYTHING he ever worked hard for and REFUSES to face the reality. The police have been called to take him away from the association meetings in his complex because he goes in and rants and raves because of imagined injustices. He had to show up once at the police station for a sexual harassment complaint. He recently physically blocked my sister from leaving his home as she had come to help him, yelling profanities at her.
Dad never forgets anything, and constantly holds "his version" of the past over everyone's head. He can be extremely charming and then turn on a DIME! He rambles coherently, yet shifts focus constantly. He has always love the DRAMA of egging on and working the other person up until they are so mad they behave as badly as he does...that way he can say "see YOU'RE the problem" Of course now, we are out to get him, take his money, put him away...non of which is the truth and we have countless friends and family to back that up.
Lately he's been saying how he is "little ol' David" against the world. I think he really fantasizes this idea in his head. He is so intense now it is scary...ironically my sister and I feel like were experiencing the movie "The Shining" for real.
...His last home (which will probably be confiscated within the next month is a hug million dollar monstrosity. No one wants to go there because he has spent the last 2 years making it into a museum to his life in film...which at first seems cool, until you get sucked into a 3-hour tour of the same stories...many with crazy embellishments of grandeur.
He's now telling us he is eating out of cans, and it's our fault we are not helping him move out of his repossessed homes. That said, we know for a fact that he flew out back east a couple of weeks ago to scout locations for one of his "movies". So he is spending the money he has foolishly and hoping we'll just pick up the pieces.
We are getting calls weekly from people complaining. We have tried to reason with him. The social worker said, until something actually "happens" there is nothing that can be done legally because he is still functioning and would not go for any "evaluation" willingly. I know deep down he his afraid for the future and so are we. My sister and I often say, we would trade our Dad in for a "pennyless yet sweet and king old man" for this crazy person we know longer recognize.
you asked :-(
Thank you for any insite, we are at our wits end.