Nancy you have feel free to keep my email but I didn't get one.
I also need to know if Dr. Kaushik is going to get back to me. I did answer his questions but don't know if he got my reply.The last question didn't show up until the others were answered. I do need the name of a good cognitive behaviour psychologist preferably near Boston with a proven track record, preferably a man who is taking new clients. I will pay privately if I can get the right person.
I guess this page is the email, it's not an actual address i can add to my email list.
Yes, he will get back to you.
I am referring you to Advocates, Incorporated in Marlborough... call them, they have an addictions department that is very good.
I will call Nancy,Thank you.
My husband has just reminded me that he has done AA and Adcare. He is also on Adderall for his adhd.
Nancy can you check and see if the answers to the questions that Dr. Kaushik asked me were received. I don't know if i filled them in the correct place.
I don't see your anwers. Write them again, and note they are specifically for him...
1. The answer is no to all of these. He had three snakes as a child and always cared well for them. We have always had dogs cats and rodents and he has been good with all. He has worked for a restaurant for one year during college vacations and has won points from the managers for helping older customers find wallets,help them to stand etc. With his peers he liked to organise boxing competitions until we made him join a boxing club where it would be supervised correctly and we didn't have to worry about someone getting hurt on our property.
2. He isn't defiant or disrespectful but he isn't intimidated by them either. We noticed this from when he was very young. When other kids would be scared if they were called to the principals office Andrew wouldn't lose any sleep over it. He was always in trouble in school for doing silly things so much so that we had to take him out of two high schools two years in a row otherwise he was going to be expelled. eg.on one occasion he bounced a very small ball in the hallway during lunchtime. It ricocheted off the wall and hit the teacher on the eye. He was called to the office with his dad and didn't understand what all the fuss was about as he hadn't done it on purpose. On another occasion he with others tied a volunteer friend to a school desk with duct tape and timed the boy to see how long it would take him to release himself. In doing so the varnish was pulled from the desk and once again he was in the principals office as he had thought of the idea. Once again his attitude was one of indifference as he didn't think it was a big deal. This attitude infuriates principal of schools, and most recently police officers. On a third occasion he put pencil lead around a coin and got one of the teachers he didn't like to move the coin down and across his face, the teacher went to his next class with this mark on his face and of course Andrew was out of the school that day. One year ago in college he was thrown off residence for good as he urinated through the keyhole of a guys apt and ruined the carpet as this guy and his friends had held him down during drinking and poured beer into his throat via a funnel. once again he felt this was justice but the board didn't feel the same way. He will never be allowed back on residence campus in college he was informed (by letter).
3.He has always got in trouble rather than lie. From about 18yrs on he would not answer rather than lie. He has been truant from school in his life probably less than one week total. He has never stolen to our knowledge. he knows the code to our safe but has never taken anything. He has broken the law as in oui's two so far and breaking a window in his ex girlfriends house out of anger when he found her in bed with her ex boyfriend. At this incident the girls mother realised what happened and tried to hide him in the basement as she had called the police thinking a burglar broke the window. Our town plus the neighbouring towns sniffer dogs were called in plus about ten cops. He was charged with breaking and entering but luckily the girl and her mother wouldn't press charges.
4. We don't know that he has done drugs but assume he may have in high school. Drugs have never been an issue to our knowledge.
5. He has always been very intelligent. We have references from high school teachers and college professors stating that he is one of the best students they have ever had. In his SAT's he was in the 98th percentile in his math and 76th percentile in English. He gets bored in school quickly as he picks up his work quickly. He doesn't take notes in college as he remembers everything. He did get into some prestigious colleges based on his finishing high school on the high honor roll and his SAT's but his police record left little to be desired. These schools told him that if he didn't get in trouble with the law for one year he could attend but unfortunately he is still in trouble with the law.
These are the answers to Dr Kaushik's questions.
Hi Dr Kaushik
Andrew is already on adderall. He was on wellbutrin but his blood pressure shot up. Findind a good cognitive therapy person is the dilemma and this is where i thought you could recommend someone. I have been referred to a clinic but again this is trial and error. I was hoping for a name of someone who is interested in their patients and not just a job to them.
I can't accept your answer Nancy as I have gained nothing. The Marlborough people said that they don't have anyone who does cognitive behaviour therapy but that they will contact me if they hear of someone. We are now looking at the military and hopefully there he will be supervised enough to prevent him from getting into trouble.
Thanks anyway for trying
I am really glad you wrote back. The people with whom you speak when you call are not trained; they are simply receptionists.
Please call(NNN) NNN-NNNNor(NNN) NNN-NNNN/strong> again and simply schedule an appointment with an outpatient therapist. The therapist will know what to do when they see your son -- but don't rely on the information of the secretary -- I PROMISE you, the therapists there are Cognitive-Behavioral in orientation. But also know that CBT just means that you discuss "thoughts and behaviors" -- that's all; there is no magic cure, it's just a way of doing therapy.
Any good therapist will do what your son needs. Until an evaluation, you can't say if that's CBT or not.
So.... please just call back and make an appointment. OKAY?