Usually this kind of blushing occurs due to social anxiety. Especially where you notice that it is most prevalent when you're the one talking, it might be the case for you although it's a bit perplexing that you inwardly feel confident. Do you worry about what others are thinking of you while you're talking? If it is social anxiety, it can be managed through relaxation exercises, therapy and/or medication, among other things.
'inwardly confident' (lately I was told I was blushing when I thought I had the situation under control) I guess Im not, its just I try so hard.
I do worry get anxious about what people are thinking whilst I talk and continually worry im about to go red or am I already red, then find it hard to concentrate and maybe debate get my points across, meanwhile I have gone red get even more embarrassed then I feel even worse because work collegues notice and wondering what the Hell s wrong with him. This happens when I'm in groups or with certain superiors.. its like a bit of blushing due to some form of shyness, social phobia from when I was young has become a phobia, I come across odd articles about pushing yourself into situations rather than avoiding but seem to come out worse
So what succesful treatment could I go for and from who, what medication should I go to my doctor, what ideas could I query with my doctor
I would suggest that you seek out a psychologist who specializes in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). This is a form of therapy that is usually short-term and focuses on changing negative thought patterns that lead to a problematic behavior (or, in your case, bodily reaction).
If you wanted to try a medication to help with social anxiety/phobia, I would recommend that you see a psychiatrist for this. He/she will likely prescribe you a SSRI medication (such as Paxil, Zoloft, Prozac, Celexa, etc.).
You can always do both things- therapy and medication. In either case, the doctor you see will do a thorough assessment of your symptoms (to rule out anything else) and then come up with a treatment plan for you based on what you determine. Social anxiety is very common and frequently treated successfully.
when im in the situation its like fight or flight experience, would beta blockers be a solution or are ssri s better Thanks for your help I will pay when you answer me this Cheers
thankyou for your help Im making an appointment to see my Doctor and get this little problem sorted