I am sorry to know about the approach of doctors, but since Bariatric surgery is a specialist job and there are not many with such expertise, so may be they are overburdened with patients such as yours. But that does not solve our problem.
See one thing is sure that your depression is due to your weight problem and in fact reducing your weight is any time a bigger and far more important issue than depression as of now. I suggest that you should go ahead with Bariatric Surgery, it surely will help in many ways than one , but the problem is that you cannot afford it in U.K.
So, i think i have an idea , why dont you go out to another country on the basis of medical tourism and get yourself operated upon.
Your tickets, stay and the cost of operation , all these expenses will come out to be much less than the operation carried out in U.K . Plus the state of the art hospital with top surgeons pERFORMING the surgery will not make you feel any different from your own country.
One such country is India, where an increasing number of people come for medical tourism. I shall give you one site address , that probably will help you making your decision., the site address is www.wockhardthospitals.net or www.wockhardt.com.
Go on to this site and sort out your expenses and take the necessary decision.
Wish you good health.
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