she had some mean streeks with freinds at age 9 and it seems that the anger started at around late teens 19or 20 when she had issues with something she would take off for a drive to cool down or get away from the situation around 21 she start testing alcohol and and got 2 duis, wreak and totaled 5 cars with in 1week of each other, during those times she had boy freinds that one said she was yelling at him at the end of there relationship.she met a new boy freind and was with him awile until as she put it he cheted on her she thrashed the inside of his house, now she has a new boy freind that she was living with for 4 mounths that she met at around 19 at the time they were like siblings and we help the young man and gave him a place to live for awile and also gave him a job in my bussiness witch worked out good for a bit, had to fire him do to cocain use during that time they where just freinds .now they are together and living in my garage.she has her lisences back and is going to dui classes where she gets counsiling too befor the duis she was in trade school for the medical field.doing well it seemed she started alot of partying around that time but she said she had it all befor the duis new car career boyfreind freinds ect now as i said she is living in my garage with here boy freind they both have cars and are looking for jobs not agressivly my daughter said she thinks she need to get her anger problem under control first i agree the latest burst ended up with her hiting her mom and kicking hiting the barbocue resulting in poss fratured hand and poss brooken toe and saying things like i hope you die iwant to kill you to her mom and after i got her under control she said iwouldnt do that but im not sure when she is in that state she could control her self it seems exstreem to me like its not her and maybe the meds as you say are a good bit of the problem, also imay add that the boy she is living with in the garage with have blow outs that triger the same behavore with him mabe drugs that he did = the same feeling about the drugs her mom is getting off of. when we talk about seeing the psychologist she said she has not told her about the burst after the last episode she wouldnt go to the doc because she was wored she would be put in some institution psy ward ect. itold her that from the symton she was having to the meds and the normal state of mind being stable more than not that as you said needs more therapy /counsuling than in pateint programs she knows that what is going on is not right that she should have control of her self sorry for all the miss spelled words im not agood speller also I am going to accept the answer just wanted to give bigger picture so you could respound again im sure things are not in exsact order but some what close.
do you think she is still using the wrong meds well butren and abilify if so could they be adding to the problem.What meds would you recommend ? I looked up borderline personality disorder and found that at least 80% of the data seem to fit the mould it seems that almost all the symptoms were preasant.how would go about telling her about this. After the last burst I was able to get her to admit she has a condition but wasn't sure what it was at the time ,now with your help and a little reserch I think were on the right track.Maybe there is a good way to start the convesation with her she for the most part she has respect for me and always calls me or comes to me when she is under extreme emotions for direction and or comfort or just to be listen to 50% of the time I can help calm her down and sometimes not Ihave to show up to intervein Im glade I found this site and your exspert opition I would like to get a little more advise and would be g;lad to pay thank you david