Thank you for that additional information.
A prostate exam is usually a part of every complete physical exam on a male. Many times it is deferred due to social considerations (it is uncomfortable both emotionally and possibly physically for some patients).
As to getting to do tests like an CTA/MRA that she does not feel is medically indicted you are going to find that you are fighting a uphill battle that you are not really going to win. Doctors only order tests that they believe are medically indicated.....
Getting a doctor to do something against their will is like herding cats -- just ask my wife ;)
That being said there are centers across the country that will do imaging studies and selected blood work etc that you desire. Of course, they are doing these tests not because modern medicine deems them necessary to diagnose any particular illness or condition but, rather, because you want the test done.
As such, they can be expensive. And you have to pay 100% out of your pocket, usually in advance.
As to prostate massage, you can learn to do this for your boyfriend on your own.
Here is one website ( of many) that shows how to do this safely:
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