That was an excellent tip on the SAP-list. Now we are making progress. I called the first SAP on the list and she was quite accommodating at first, telling me her fee - $375 - for an assessment. I asked if my medical insurance - Blue Cross Blue Shield - would cover it since it is a medical issue? She did not know so I'll call to find out.
When I told her I was looking for a second opinion from an SAP since I absolutely disagreed with that SAP this new SAP said they do not want to get involved.
So I am making progress in fits and starts thanks to JA but still finding this area of medicine and law to be a strange one where it's not only difficult to get legal representation but difficult to get information from lawyers, apparently because it is just not an area lawyers like to dwell, relative to other areas of alleged malpractice or personal injury anyway. I am getting most of my good advice from the MDs with JA, which is still progress in this great research project of mine. So thank you, XXXXX XXXXX am still learning my way around JA. I'm thinking of beaking away from my usual drug-testing questions and ask why my refrigerator keeps freezing lettuce and produce in the non-freezer dept. just to see what happens.
One thing I would like to ask is regarding bonuses:
I am a tour bus driver so I know how nice it is to get a gratuity at the end of a long bus trip, thus validating the value my passengers place on my ability after their lives have been in my surgically repaired hands driving on cliffs through dangerous bear, lion, and squirrel country. The price of the ticket is high enough to begin with.
Bonuses are the same as tips for JA experts and I'm starting to feel guilty not hitting that button after an answer, especially since I get so many tips in my job I feel I did something wrong if I don't get a tip, kind of like a food server at a restaurant.
Do JA experts feel the same way if they don't get a bonus? Does a "big bonuser" customer get better service in the future than a low or no-bonuser? I'm usually a big tipper, for working class, when I'm out on the town or getting serviced. My girlfriend or domestic partner (DM) is a total control freek and took my credit cards away from my control. I had to beg her to let me get a subscription to JA. I told her I wanted to start giving bonuses like a normal person and she is refusing. Can she do this legally or medically? She thinks my credit card will get stolen on JA and charged beyond it's multi-hundred dollar limit along with my identity. After what the JA experts now know about my issues, no one wants to go that near my identity.
My question is two-fold: Does a track record of leaving bonuses affect in any way the quality of future correspondence? Is there a relationship psychologist that can counsel regarding dominance mitigation?