There are many causes of itching of the anal area.
First, there could be hemorrhoids that you are not aware of and since you are seeing bleeding I would strongly urge you to have your doctor check you out. Your doctor cannot tell your mom as you are over 18. It is against the law.
There are certain foods that can make the itching worse, so try to avoid coffee, tea, cola, chocolate, citrus, and tomatoes.
Infections can lead to itching as well as allergies to the soaps, detergents, etc-leading to dermatitis of the anal area. That is another reason it would be a good idea to have your doctor look at the area.
What you can try at home is a 1% hydrocortisone cream applied to the area twice per day. You can also, in between the cortisone
application, apply desitin (which is a diaper rash cream). Do not use the cortisone for longer than 12-14 days as this can cause thinning of the skin and lead to a worsening problem as a result.
At night, try taking benadryl.
I hope this is helpful information for you. If you have any other questions, let me know.
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