Oh ok. If you don't remember your Apple ID, then you can find it from
this website--> https://iforgot.apple.com/password/verify/appleid#!§ion=appleid
If you don't remember the password, then you have to reset the password. You can reset it from here (go to this website from your computer) --> https://iforgot.apple.com/
Go to the above website. Use the "Get an Email" method to reset the Apple ID. Apple will send the reset instructions to the recovery email you setup with your Apple ID. It would be your email registered with Apple, like Gmail, Yahoo etc. Open your email and you will see the email from Apple. Open it and follow the instructions to reset the password.
If that didn't work, then go tothis site again --> https://iforgot.apple.com/
This time use the "Answer Security Questions" and answer the security questions there to reset your password.
And remember, If you setup your sons iPad with your Apple ID, he is going to get all the messages sent to you, he will be able to track all your downloads, see contacts etc. Are you sure you want to do that ?
Please let me know if that didn't work, so I will continue to help you