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Did you use your ipad in conjunction with a mac or a pc with itunes installed?
If so, do you still have that mac or pc with you?
You said no, then you said to send instructions to your desktop computer.
Do you have a desktop computer then? And if so, is it a mac or a pc?
And also, do you have itunes on that desktop computer?
Please answer all the questions I am asking so I can help you find and recover your apple id.
We need to check and see if you have itunes. because if you have itunes, then your apple id should match your ipad ( usually )
Can you go to your applications, and see if itunes is there?
Or, go to your finder / spotlight, type in itunes
And then launch the itunes app.. Do you have it installed on your mac?
To use the ipad, you would have to set up an apple id.
If you cannot get into your ipad at all, then you wont be able to use the ipad to recover your apple id and password.
Thats why I asked specifically about a computer or mac.
as thats our best chance at finding your apple id and password, so we can regain access to your ipad.