My dad is in the hospital, he recently had a stroke. He has been in a wheelchair for about 30 years, he broke his neck body surfing, because of his injury he has 2 live in assistants. The stroke has impaired his ability to speak, he has very little movement in his arms so writing is out of the question, his only way to communicate now is by nodding his head. I am his only child, his parents are deceased, he has a brother and a sister (they are both married).
I was at the hospital and one of the live in assistants sat me down to have a talk, she told me that my uncle and aunt had wanted me to have very limited updates about my dad's condition and that if I were to visit in the hospital, I should not be left alone with my father.
Two days prior, I witnessed the other assistant adjusting the medical sensors as well as the trachea ventilator tube, my father's face showed great discomfort. I wanted to stop her but she has threatened to call the police because of how I have approached her in the past about how I feel she is too rough with my dad. I talked to a nurse at the hospital about what I witnessed, they said the assistant has no business touching the trachea ventilator, as it requires special training, and if done wrong it could result in an infection. Not to mention moving it around can be very painful for the patient.
The two assistants have had lots of troubles with each other. I will call them A and Z. A is the one who sat me down for the talk, Z is the one who pulled on the respirator. Z has accused A of killing her pet dog, Z has been making rude comments about me and my fiancee. Z had been married to a man for citizenship, he found out and filed for divorce, Z was facing deportation, I'm not sure what happened her husband may have called off the divorce but she avoided being deported.
A is no angel either. A had been arrested for changing the number of refills permitted on a Dr's prescription. A & I had a very short affair while I was living in my dad's house, after the affair we struggled to live in peace, we had an argument one night, I locked her in her room, she had me arrested, and I was charged with a domestic violence
After all this I have found an unlikely alliance with A.
My concern, and the reason I am seeking legal advice is because I am concerned about the way Z has badmouthed me to my dad's family to the point where they don't trust me alone in my dad's hospital room. I feel she is willing to abuse my dad to get me to approach her and give her reason to accuse me of being violent to her. I am also concerned she has been talking bad about my fiancee leading her family to urge my dad to change his will.
My uncle, a lawyer, had commented that my dad wanted to change his will, bit because of the stroke, they would not be able to communicate about the desired changes. I am now 36 years old, but shortly after I turned 18, my dad gave me some legal documents, prepared by my uncle, it was a will. My uncle wrote my will stating everything I possess should be given to my dad, I was not questioned before my uncle made this document. I've heard a similar story about my mom and dad before their marriage, my dad's father sat both of my parents to look at my dad's will before they would be married. Everything my father possessed would go to his brother, this will was written by my grandfather, a lawyer.
So as my uncle tells my my dad is going to update his will, I can only assume that die to my upcoming marriage, and because of bad things said to my family about me by Z the assistant, I can only assume my uncle has prepared a new will for my father that in a great way excludes me from receiving what was previously going to be left to me.
I will admit, I have not been the best son, I have not always been in touch with my dad, and rarely talk with the rest of his family. I don't see any reason why they would have a restriction on me being able to be alone with my father in his hospital room.
Please someone tell me my options!