I hope this message finds you well, present circumstances excluded. I am a licensed attorney with over a decade of criminal law experience. It is a pleasure to assist you today.
I will answer your questions in the order in which they appear.
Can I be guilty of domestic violence or harassment if I called the person the "B" word and "C"word on a text? You cannot be found guilty of domestic violence, but you can be found guilty of harassment under that set of circumstances.
I don't know if I should hire an attorney for such a minor infraction?
I would hire one of you can because this is a charge that you can avoid on your record. If you aren't represented, then there is a good chance of conviction. However, this is a situation in which when you are represented, you have a good chance of getting a deferred judgment. Think of the lawyer as an insurance policy.
Do I mention this to the judge in order to drop the case, or do I make a report to counter act this one against me?
I would file a counter against her. I think that gives you the most leverage going forward. The court will likely throw both charges out that way.
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Best wishes going forward!