It is now morning and I find that I still get an error message as to the phone call, saying that your payment hasn't cleared. I have sent you separate information on a phone call option. If you accept that offer, I should be able to call you this afternoon after all.
If not, for purposes of addressing your answer, I need to know what US state you are in, what happened to you as a direct result of your husband's social accusation and how long ago he made that accusation for me to know whether some legal action is possible.
If someone spreads a rumor about you, it doesn't always rise to the level of a civil suit. Many unpleasant or embarrassing things happen to us in the span of our lifetimes, for which the courts offer us no legal relief. There is a legal cause of action called defamation of character, but there are very specific elements required that you'd have to prove for you to mount a successful suit against someone for this. Defamation cases are not easy to win. Here are the elements you'd have to prove:
- That a person knowingly and intentionally made an untrue unprivileged statement about you
- To a third party
- That as a direct result of the statement(s) you sustained financial damages or physical injury
The statements made have to be presented as facts rather than opinions, as we are all entitled to our opinions. So one problem that I see here is that you don't know what was said about you and therefore whether or not it was true -- which is a complete defense to a defamation suit -- or only his opinion.
The second is that you cannot take many years to bring civil charges against a person. States have special laws called statutes of limitations that define when a case gets too old to be filed with the court. I don't know what US state is involved here and statutes of limitations vary from state to state. However, on an average 3 years from the incident is usually an outside limit.
You may however be on safer ground with your ex-husband's interference in your professional and personal affairs, if that is still ongoing and recent. I don't know what he's done, but that can possibly make out harassment or even stalking. If it's still ongoing there are things you can do to stop it, such as getting a restraining order against him. But again, if it's very old news, you're going to run up against a statute of limitations and be time-barred from exercising legal remedies at this time.
The way to know for sure would be to see a local lawyer as you yourself suggested above.