I have a 13-years old cat~Annie. While I moved out of USA, my sister agreed to take care of my cat; more like a long-term/permanent cat-sitter while I remain the owner. And I still pay for Annie's insurance policy
, which clearly provides info and evidence that I am the only owner, the original owner. And I never transfer the ownership
to my sister.
Now the problem is: my sister~Florence is very emotionally unstable and she gets personal easily. The reason not taking Annie with me overseas is because of the exhausting 16~20 hours long flights and 3 weeks quarantine time. So I worry Annie wouldn't make it and it's too risky for her to move overseas with me. The term my sister and I agree on is: Annie stays in USA and My sister will take care of her. And I can visit to see Annie and use skype or other means to keep in good contact. But in the past year, my sister grow more emotional and she can get upset suddenly during a skype session, and just cut me off immediately. So I can't see my cat. Or like I email her to show my concerns about Annie, with simple questions regards ***** ***** as she ages fast. My sister also ignores it, not responding. She even went so far as: blocking my emails several times. Then she came back to 'normal' mode and somehow get back into the talk session. So we ended up using Line to 'keep in touch' and set up Skype session to see Annie or have a little conversation regards ***** ***** But my sister is just very unstable and controlling. One time, I send over cat's bowel to Annie and ask my sister to change them for her, because I saw her eating bowel is way too small. Florence refused to even open it, and 'bossed' me to return to Amazon or I wasted my money. Lately, she started this kind of 'emotional blackmail' again, over and over. Telling me not to 'say whatever she doesn't want to hear'...which is like "i should be able to predict'. Or she will hang up on me, cut off skype, email, not reading Line all together. I asked her: simple but important questions about Annie's health. She went like: " that is your problem." Rather than giving me a good, clear answer. like when she'd schedule to see a vet, and how her teeth.... Most importantly, when I mentioned about the future, in the event of Annie's passing away, I'd need Annie to stay in home with her for at least 8 hours (this is a safer measurement to make sure all cat's nerve systems and senses are really gone....not have any risk or any chance of being hurt, being burned alive or when the body's any section/any nerve/anything can still feel pain.) And she also refused!
THIS IS TOO MUCH FOR ME TO TOLERATE. THIS IS MY KID, MY CAT.
HOW CAN SHE DECIDE WHAT TO DO FOR ANNIE? AND THERE IS NO WAY I CAN 'SET UP TO PROTECT ANNIE'? What can I do, to reinforce my sister: there are certain things she must 'obey' and reply with respect, so I don't feel like being threatened and always worry about Annie, also what can I do to keep an open channel for communication? Whenever she feels upset or just get personal, she cuts me off, she block email or phone calls, and now her cell phone is not in service. this makes trying to reach her like calling an alien, and still not knowing if she read my email and concerns. Just no reply. And only thing she said to me so far is: I let you see Annie by yourself (during Skype, if that is ever....called in.) And you do not talk to me. I don't listen what you want to say.
THIS IS LIKE 'KIDNAPPING
' MY CAT, IN A DIFFERENT WAY.
WHAT IS YOUR SUGGESTION?
AND HOW DO I MAKE HER TO LISTEN AND REPLY? AND KEEP AN OPEN CHANNEL?
IN THE CASE OF: IF I REALLY HAVE TO FLY ANNIE OUT, EVEN IN USA, OR OVERSEAS, HOW CAN IT BE POSSIBLE TO DEAL WITH ALL PROCEDURES INVOLVED AND MAKE THEM DONE SAFELY FOR ANNIE, WHILE MY SISTER BEHAVES LIKE SUCH?
Don't I have any right, as Annie's Owner for 10 years!? And still is, I am paying her insurance, and insist that won't be transferred to her. All the info must be updated with my sister's 'contact mailing & phone number'. And she makes her phone not in service.
I'm like???? what the hell?