Unfortunately as you were not married, you do not have any legal recourse here to force your ex to compensate you for your vehicle or pay any form of support.Regarding the title
to the vehicle you purchased together, you are each equally entitled to ownership
of the vehicle, and each equally obligated on the payments. This creates a legal fiction (it is impossible for two people who are no longer in a relationship to "share" a car), but you can demand the sale of the car, and even force the sale by filing what is called a "partition action" with the court.You can try to negotiate a buy out of your half of the car with your ex by sending her a demand letter, or trying to get a mediation (you can do a mediation over the phone) to resolve this dispute, but you will want something in writing to confirm your understanding as to the obligation to pay the remainder of the debt as well as your remaining rights to the vehicle. (Keep in mind, even if the two of you come to an agreement over the car, unless she refinances the vehicle in her name alone, you will remain liable to the lender if there is a default - you can still sue her for default on your contract
later, but the lender has a primary claim against you as a borrower until the loan
is satisfied).To find a mediator, you can contact your local bar association, they can put you in touch with mediators (you probably want someone with a background in family law, although make sure you are clear when speaking with the mediator that this is not a family law dispute as the law is very different for that type of relationship). The mediator can then take the next step in contacting your ex and trying to set up a mediation session either in person or via telephone.