domestic partnership was never formally recorded. He did have me in his will but i do not know any details on that. and he always told me that if we were to end the relationship, he would make sure i was well taken care of untill i could get stable on my own. possibly some of those things in writing on holiday cards or letters of apology after an argument. i did keep all of those cards so i would have to check them.
If you can find any such promises in writing, then you could arguably have a claim for palimony and support. But the issue with palimony is not the same as with spousal benefits--palimony for the most part has to be voluntarily provided, offered, and assumed by the parties. Otherwise under law it does not matter how long you were together, you are still legally considered to be 'legal strangers' and nothing more than roommates. This goes for any domestic partnership, if there is nothing in writing, nothing recorded, and no direct written promises or obligations, then there is no obligation to provide assistance. Hence, it is in your best interest to scour your documentation to see if he ever made promises pertaining to financial support, and whether such a promise would have been considered as something you would reasonably rely upon. Otherwise when you two ended up going your separate ways, there is no further financial (or any) obligation that you would owe to each other.
Hope that helps.
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