Hi Catherine,The reason I asked you for your information here is that this entire situation has the implausibility and every characteristic of an internet romance scam. I have great difficulty believing it.Sometimes a person that you actually know gets his email account or Facebook account hacked into and friends and family members listed in his contact link suddenly get messages claiming to be from the person who is having an out-of-the country emergency for which the only solution is to ask you to wire a large amount of cash. Meanwhile, the person who is the so called requester is safe and sound somewhere else and doesn't need a thing. I think that somewhere during the course of your relationship with man you met, that may be what happened here.Let me show you what I'm talking about, because here is my standard description of the internet romance scammer and you can understand my concern:- the scammer reaches out to you on a dating or social networking website and he falls in love with you at first sight. His profile shows an attractive, well educated man with his own business and you can't believe your luck. If you/he is middle aged, he generally claims to be a widower with a son or a daughter.- He moves in on you faster than a speeding bullet and sweeps you off your feet, rushing the relationship towards some kind of a commitment. He pulls you off the site where you met and tells you that he wants an exclusive relationship with you via webcam, skype, Yahoo messenger, etc. He talks of love, marriage, future and forever.- He goes off to another country, not your own, for work purposes, usually, but not always as an engineer, a geologist, an architect or a construction or mining supervisor. Most often he tells you he's in Nigeria, Ghana or Malaysia.- And suddenly, as soon as he sees that you return his feelings, the conversation turns from love to money and he has the first of an endless series of unfortunate events. He has an accident at work or a problem with his credit card, a theft at his hotel, or he's mugged on the street and needs you to pay his hospital bill, or his son comes down with something serious, or he has workers he must pay or legal expenses he must clear or he is going to get arrested. There are dozens of excuses, no one of them truthful. You can see a whole list of these excuses on this page, ___See my point? If you look at the excuses you will find the inabiity to pay a hotel bill way up there.Further, the story is pretty week. If his bank has a hold on his funds, how did he get to Malaysia in the first place? The answer would logically be he has credit, no matter what he tells you. In fact if he's a businessman who travels internationally, then he's likely got a lot of credit from several different sources, not all of which would be affected by what happens to his bank account. He would also have a business line of credit separate from his personal account.Further, unless he's staying in a dump in Malaysia, and even that I'm not so sure about, he'd have to pay by credit card in advance or use a credit card to secure his hotel room before he ever checked in. If you've ever traveled internationally, you know this to be true.If he has a hold from on his bank account, it wouldn't matter whether he notified his bank about the trip or not. The only way you can get a bank hold released is by paying off the debt that created it. So again, the story is terribly flawed.___Something is really wrong with this picture and if you hadn't met your friend in person at some point, I would tell you flat out that he's a scammer. As it is I can't do that though I am confident that you're being had.I assume if he went out to Malaysia for a short stay, he would do what most travelers do which would be to buy a round-trip ticket. Call up the US Embassy in Kuala Lumpur. Your friend may be Danish but if he can live in the US, he's got a visa or a green card if he's here legitimately, and in any case YOU're a US citizen. Here's where you can find their contact information, and tell them that you have a friend who you believe is stuck in Malaysia and you want to get him some money to pay his hotel bill so he can come home, but that someone has suggested that this may be a scam. Get the name of someone at the embassy that you can send the money to. Make arrangements with the Embassy for your boyfriend to come and get the money from that person at the Embassy. In order to get it, he will have to prove his identity. That will kill two birds at once. It will allow you to give him enough money to get home and at the same time to do it in such a way that if you are being scammed he can't possibly comply with this and you can get your money back. If suddenly he tells you he's been mugged on the street and lost all of his identification, (that's on the list too) you'll know that whoever this man is, he's not who you thought he was.
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