Hi there. Harassment seems to be based on degrading the other party, not building them up. Stalking i'm not sure of, the law seems to be based upon invading someone else's comfort zone when that other person has made it clear they do not want to be "bothered". So it seems you seem to be advocating that even acts of kindness could be construed as harassment. For instance, the other party could contend that they don't like nice things, in fact nice things make them feel uncomfortable. But the guy who plays jazz in a car living next door to me annoys me and makes me feel uncomfortable yet my comfort has no sway over his rights to express himself as a person. Yet one can't have it both ways. I would understand if the person made it clear to me I don't like sweet things, and they make me feel sick. But that was never made clear. Stalking as far as I know hasn't been addressed by gifts given to someone, especially of such a benign tone, as to raise a legal issue. The stalker basic's seem to be coming nowhere close to this, and as far as I have searched on google, it's hard to tell someone to stop communicating with you if it's not based on libel, or defamation. If this is a new legal precedent being set that gestures of kindness or in fact hurtful, then she is saying she likes things that aren't kind, but if i'm unkind in any way then I am more liable to be considered harassing. One can't have it both ways.
harassment basics in Colorado...
can you cite a case I can look at where a man or woman was charged with stalking for offering 10 dozen flowers with nothing other than a note saying from "so and so". And if so, can you put me in touch with a defense attorney in Denver. The whole stalker premise seems to be derived from one party being not willing to "let go" and continually seeks to derive some kind of physical or emotional contact that was present previously. I was once told by my ex that she had a stalker previously when our relationship was on healthier terms. For all I know she has had 4 stalker claims or charges made. If this is a repeated theme in some of her previous relationships she has had, then maybe the way she is treating her men in her life is psychologically abusive or emotionally abusive. I bring this up because I have a couple things I would like to mention which you will probably claim as insubstantial. I was slandered a few times, a couple times in the presence of others, while I treated her very well our entire relationship. I also have reason to believe she has a picture of my genitalia that was taken on her phone without my consent, taken by her. A lot of the stalker claim is contingent upon the fact that one party has said or addressed that a relationship is finished while the other "refuses to accept this admonition" and continues to try to precipitate one. The fact that I am a romantic and still in love matters not, and that because I offer loving gestures I am assuming that somewhere locked away in her heart is a romantic and portion of love that still exists. But if the gestures didn't work previously, then any future gestures come across as creepy and someone who will not let go that the idea of this love is dead.
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