Thank you for your question. I am genuinely sorry to hear that you are in this situation.You mention that she made an 'accusation'--what specifically did she accuse you of? That you made the comment, or something else? I ask because if you admit to the comments, that is not an accusation, it is a factual statement. Have you been sued, charged with anything, or has the fact you made those comments simply been disclosed to others?
She made an accusation that those words I had said quite openly, referred to my life as a much younger person, 60 years ago. That I used those words is true, but as to their intent, that seems to have been exacerbated by her interpretation of my interest and attention to the girl in question. My contact was fleeting and not hovering, although she nearly accused me of hovering (my word).My words have been disclosed to others and it is possible that they will spread.
Can she make a police report about this, or should I?
Did you receive my extended response?
Dan,That is not an accusation. If your intent was different but you made the comments, then it is a factual retelling of your own comments. The fact you meant something else by the comments, or a meaning was attributed to the words you did not in any way intend or expect does not lessen the factual truth of the words. This is not a criminal matter either pertaining to you or to her, the comments are accurate and as there was no physical contact, abuse, or further inappropriate activity, this isn't a criminal matter. And as the comments are true, you cannot make her stop repeating them. At most you can threaten (and pursue) a claim against her in civil court for defamation of character but please be aware that truth is the ultimate defense to any defamation claims. She cannot make a police report here unless there is evidence pertaining to you of any inappropriate activity, and neither can you make a report since she hasn't violated any laws.Good luck.
PS. Sorry for the delay, I did receive your post, I was busy typing up an extensive response to you.
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