Dear XXXXX, Thank you for your additional information,
If your daughter's PO had said that to a third person and not you, I would have said that you could file a lawsuit against her for defamation of character; however, she said it to you and that does not meet the requirements of a defamation of character action.
There is no question that the PO should not have said that and certainly not lied to you, but unfortunately, not every word and phrase (no matter how hurtful and inappropriate) is actionable.
As for "conduct unbecoming an officer of the court" which you asked about, I am afraid that would not be possible because first, only Attorneys are officers of the Court, a PO is not an officer of the Court; and second, that is a charge reserved for the military service.
In order to assure that this PO does not act this way again, I certainly would report her in writing to her superiors and describe to them how unprofessional it was and how it affected you. This will certainly go on the PO's permanent record and will be reviewed each time the PO might be up for a promotion, or when she looks for another job,
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