Hi - my name is XXXXX XXXXX I'm a litigation attorney. Thanks for your question, but I'm sorry for your troubles with finding out what is going on with your case! I know that is very frustrating.
However, the simplest way to find out the status of your case is to go to the court clerk's office and take a look at the court docket. The docket page for your case will show ALL activity in your case. Anything that has been filed by a party or the judge will be listed there; if an order has been entered regarding your tax lien issue, it would be listed there.
USUALLY, your attorney would be familiar with the case and could tell you what is going on, and provide copies of the order/court decision, etc.. But, if you want to take it upon yourself to find out what is going on, the best option is to review the court docket.
If a decision has not been entered, you can speak to your attorney about filing a motion for a status conference to find out where this matter stands.
As for the judge, your husband and his attorney should not have any control over the judge as that is completely illegal. Thus, if you have any proof of some conspiracy or relationship that is improper, that would be something you would want to report to the NY State Commission on Judicial Conduct (http://www.scjc.state.ny.us/).