I don't know what to do. My brother has all the power of attorney and medical. He said he had not executed it yet but has access to her bank accounts though he is not on them as of today. Oh yeah my brother gambles often and loses often. My mother is terminal and probably has a few months. I am being shut out so I have no idea what to do. I do not think it is wise for him to take her on this long trip with none of her doctors close by. She has insurance that will allow for someone to care for her at home but he told her not to use it instead he has my aunt who he is close to taking care of her. She is 74 and is in poor health. I am perplexed.
I guess my concern is she answers things intelligently but her behavior is out of character. SHe also seems paranoid and talks in a high faast voice.
Do I need a lawyer to ask for guardianship?
I will give you an example of two of the spending things she did recently
On Monday she plans to give my oldest daughter who has been in and out of court and rehab., Lost custody of her son because of drugs, $15000.
Last night she told my other daughter who has always been her favorite and is an excellent student and top athlete she would take out a restraining order against her. This is the opposite of my mom.
What kind of proof does the court need. THe doctor did tell me that the surgery effected her frontal lobe that controls behavior and emotion. The meds are causing the psychosis. I am afraid she will die hating me.
I meant to give a 2nd example. She spent over a $1000.00 calling home shopping networks. She remembers she called but doesn't remember what she bought. She just says they are things that will be needed.
My brother says she was just bored.
Big Question based on what little you have seen and there is more then this.
Do I have a chance of getting someone else put in charge? It doesn't have to be me I feel a nuetral person would be best. I fear she only has months so do the courts act quickly. My brother has hidden any information from me and knew all along this is terminal. Like I said I only found out 2 days ago and am still reeling from the shock. I kept asking but he told me he did not know. I feel this is called alienation of affection (heard that phrase a long time ago) as he has her in his house and controls the narrative. Can I sue him for this deciet?
Is there any way I can be allowed to see her in his house? I feel he is taking her on this trip to keep her close as she is easily influenced.
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