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I am so sorry to hear about your son and that this is going on. Your son's girlfriend can be angry about you not violating the order, but you cannot do so. Your son's girlfriend can contact the ex and negotiate with him for information and access. However, as you both have rights to the information, the hospital administration will have to give you access to the site and you are going to have to discuss it with them and show them the copy of the restraining order so they are aware of the bad blood between you and the ex and his family.
The son's girlfriend, on the other hand, is not under any injunction and if she wants to call him and deal with him, that is not illegal and it is not a violation of the order and you need to tell her that.
Your final recourse, if the hospital will not agree, would be that you can get an emergency ex parte court order of guardianship over your son because of his medical condition from the court and this would give you all of the control over your son's affairs and your ex would not even be able to get through that one except by coming to court in TN and trying to prove he would be a better guardian for your son than you are.
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