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Under the NC laws a divorce can be entered one year and one day after the separation. However, NC is unique in that they allow for property matters to be settled before that time without any court intervention or approval through mediation or settlement negotiation. You cannot file for divorce before the separation period is complete, but you can negotiate the property settlement of the marital property
before the divorce is filed.
Thus, you need to engage in property settlement negotiations now and you can negotiate for responsibility for the student loans she used as part of that agreement. Once you have agreed to all of the terms of the marital property settlement, you would put everything in writing and both parties would sign the agreement in front of a notary and this would be a legally binding marital property settlement which the court would not be involved in.
2) As stated above, divorce cannot be filed for in NC until the parties have been separated for the required year.
3) Absent any court custody order between the parents of the grandchild, either parent can grant you the right to see the child and even have visitation for overnight or for the time you are seeking as long as it is during that parent's time with the child. If the other parent objects they can go to court to get a court custody order to prevent such visitation. Without a court order, as long as the parent granting you the time with the child is doing so during their time they have with the child, they are free to do so.
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