I met a girl online in October. We emailed, texted and talked on the phone for 2-3 hrs a night at times for about a month. Then I met her finally a month later in November at her place. We just hung out and didn't go out most of the time. After the 2nd or 3rd time we hung out she quit her job the next day. She had been miserable there and thought she had another lined up .. but that one fell through. At this point she started having issues with money and was worried about rent. I offered to help her out with the understanding that she would pay me back once she got a job. I started off giving her $1500 and then more money because she was going to court to try and get her ex to pay more child support and her rent. Well I kept giving her money each month and in Dec she claimed she had to go to court again and pay her lawyers $7000 for that and then needed money for bills, etc. She said she was going to the back to get a loan
for $50,000 that her friend cosigned for her but it fell through (if this was even true now that I think about it). So I helped her out again & around xmas time things were good between us & we finally had relations on new years day. Well it was during her ovulation cycle and apparently she got pregnant (once again, only going by what I was told but hard not to believe). So she went to doctor to get a medical abortion but also needed ongoing testing because of ovary issues which she had told me about when we first met. She had just started a job at Nordstom's but it didn't last because she was constantly sick and frankly wasn't what she expected. As time went on she was claiming to be depressed and worried about everything so I helped out again ($10,000 in Jan alone) and she locked down her FB page saying only a few close friends and fam were on it. Her car was having troubles as well and I even signed a lease
on a new KIA for her which I've been making payments on. Within a week she had lightly backed into the unit below hers car outside & they wanted $350 for it but she kept putting it off (more on this soon). Around the 18th of January I noticed a change in her behavior: not talking to me as much, less open, colder, etc. She led me to believe that it was because I wasn't helping out enough and her doctors bills were building up because of the ultrasounds. I felt I was only responsible for the "procedure" but still tried to help and offered to split the cost of her bills. At this point she said that the total was in the 60k's and that the debt she owed me would be null. Because I stretched myself so thing I couldn't help her till end of Feb when I got my bonus. At that point I questioned her if she was dating someone else & she said "yes, but why should it matter?" I was mad but b/c I said I'd help her because I was a man of my word and gave her money again. Well March went by and towards the end of the month she came back that the unit downstairs was taking her to court for damage to the car, days pay, etc and she would need $3000 to cover court plus $1500 for some for bills. She was getting a bday check from her mom the next week that she could pay me back the $1500. Since she was acting more open, friendly and inviting me out I stupidly helped out again. Well that Sat that she supposedly was inviting me to a birthday party she never got back to me. I met a guy out that was a friend of hers on FB & apparently she just blocked me and has been seeing this guy since January at least. Another friend of mine is friends with the guy on FB and he changed his status on Feb 5th to "in a relationship" with her. I have screenshots of that and them at concerts/family events/bars/etc since Feb, all the text messages we ever sent, bank documentation of large withdrawals (which are not the norm for me), and FB messages from her and her friend who I NEVER met or talked to but would chat with only on FB. This friend would pressure me to help her out at times and claims not to have know anything about their relationship when I have screen shots of her liking the status change and pic he posted back in Feb. If it wasn't for the small window of time that things were great and actually sleeping with her I would have felt like it was all a scam and I was catfished. But I do think she got pregnant, had bills that were a lot and she borrowed money from her family for, but is lying about the total of the medical bills & kept this relationship a secret so I would continue to help her out. To date the total is $38,200 I've LOANED her & approx $1300.00 in car payments which I want to either sign the lease over or to her or take it.
What kind of lawyer do I need? Do I have a strong case? Can I sue for pain and suffering since I've been stressed, depressed and worried for 3 months about my finances, her health and the thought of losing a potential child while she is out enjoying life and having a good time with this new guy? I have a hard time believing anything she says at this point.