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I am sincerely XXXXX XXXXX what your wife is doing to you and particularly in the presence of your four year old. I represent more husbands (as opposed to wives) in divorce proceedings, so believe me when I tell you that I understand completely how you feel and I do realize that in very many instances, the husband is the victim, but because the law looks at the female as the weaker gender, the severity of the husband's plight is not fully appreciated. So, I also understand the frustration you feel in trying to make the Court understand what you are really going through.
I would like to help and so with your particular facts in mind, I researched the Domestic Violence Prevention Act (the "ACT") which is embodied in California Family Code Section 6200 through 6218, in order to see what relief is afforded to you under the Act. I know you came to JustAnswer because you want correct information and Answers so that you can take appropriate steps to protect yourself and your rights. And, I have an ethical obligation to give you only correct Answers and not mislead you with misinformation. I am respectfully XXXXX XXXXX you keep in mind that the law does not always support our position or assist us in achieving a particular goal. So, I can only give you solutions and options within the parameters of the law.
I will address each of your concerns in the order in which you mentioned them in your facts.
1. You stated, " I presented 10 quotes from my wife saying that "if" I wasn't going to do "X" (give her money, more powers in our 50/50 custody split, or a lump sum payment, "then" she was going to file complaints with me and destroy my professional.........." and
2. "I wanted her restrained against doing any of the things she talked about as well as the pattern of other abuse evident in her vulgar, abusive emails as well as her repeated violations of court orders, particularly those having to do with what is said around our 4 year old daughter.........."
Here, your wife is threatening to ruin your name and reputation in order to get what she wants from the divorce. It appears that she would say whatever it is that she finds necessary in order to get her way, including making false statements to ruin your name and reputation, and thereby ruin you professionally. As damaging as her acts would be, the Domestic Violence Prevention Act does not cover these situations and does not afford any relief.
Your Recourse: These are clearly threats to ruin your reputation and your recourse would be to file a civil action against your wife for slander and defamation of character wherein you would claim monetary damages from her.
In order to fall within the Domestic Violence Prevention Act and have the Court grant a Restraining Order to the victim, the threats made to the victim must be threats of inflicting physical injury to the victim. Neither verbal abuse, nor vulgar language are included in the "Definitions" of Section 6203. For your reference, I am reprinting pertinent parts of the Domestic Violence Prevention Act below, and have underlined certain parts for emphasis.
Your wife should not be allowed to violate any Court Order and you should not permit her to get away with it. As long as your wife sees that you do not take any action against her for violating Court Orders, she will continue to violate them.
Your Recourse : As soon as your wife ignores, or violates a Court Order, you should immediately file a Petition for Contempt. The penalty for Contempt of a Court Order is jail time. So, when the Judge finds her in Contempt of Court, you should ask the Judge to exercise his power and authority and sentence her to jail time. If the Judge gives her jail time, even once, trust me, she will never ignore, or violate another Court Order again.
Domestic Violence Prevention Act
6200. This division may be cited as the Domestic Violence Prevention Act.
6201. Unless the provision or context otherwise requires, the ,definitions in this part govern the construction of this code.
6203. "Abuse" means intentionally or recklessly to cause or attempt to cause bodily injury, or sexual assault, or to place a person in reasonable apprehension of imminent serious bodily injury to that person or to another.
"6218. "Protective order" means an order that includes any of the following restraining orders, whether issued ex parte, after notice and hearing, or in a judgment:
(a) An order described in Section 6320 enjoining specific acts of abuse.
(b) An order described in Section 6321 excluding a person from a dwelling.
Section 6320 provides as follows:"6320
. (a) The court may issue an ex parte order enjoining a party
telephoning, including, but not limited to, making annoying telephone calls as described in Section
653m of the Penal Code, destroying personal property, contacting,
either directly or indirectly, by mail or otherwise, coming within a
specified distance of, or disturbing the peace of the other party,
and, in the discretion of the court, on a showing of good cause, of
other named family or household members.
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