Ok, this might take awhile but here goes.
I work online as a webcam model. I entertain on a webcam every evening and my "fans" contribute by 'tipping" me tokens that are thus turned into money on my end. (www.myfreecams.com is the website I work for) A man on there approached me in January, and we quickly became friends. In May of this year, he lent me money to purchase a washer and dryer for my home. After that though, he slowly started getting more and more obsessed with me (it happens alot in my industry as you can probably imagine) and claimed to be in love with me. I made it clear that we were friends only and the friendship continued.
In September, I ended the friendship because his demands and expectations on our "relationship" were getting too much for me. He was getting jealous of my other fans, was getting upset if I wasn't around to talk to him online, etc...it was just too much to deal with so I told him I wished to end the friendship. We set up a payment plan for me to pay him back - I told him I was expecting a larger than normal paycheck at the end of December, and said I could begin to pay him back then and he agreed.
Over the next several weeks though, he kept harassing me via email, while I was at work on cam....emailing dozens of times a day, begging for me to take him back, saying that he had changed...I always maintained that I didn't want him to contact me. I wasn't interested in him in the slightest and his obsession with me frightened me. This week, things came to a head. On Saturday nite, he messaged me, drunk, and told me that he was coming to my home. Now I keep my information private, so I freaked out and asked him if he even knew my address and he said that he did. So I called him (blocking my number) to verify that he actually knew it and wasn't just BS-ing me, and on the phone he started making threats and being rude. My husband stepped in, took the phone and tried to talk to him about how out of line he was being, and Mike (the fan) became irate, calling my husband homophobic slurs, and threatening to come to our home to "beat his face in" and threatened violence against him. He then admitted that he knew my address, quoted it, and admitted to searching the internet for it. I had randomly mentioned months ago that my landlord was hoping to sell the home next year, so he searched MLS listings to find my home. (he recognized it by the outside view because I had webcammed from my yard before, and he recognized my car on Google Earth (he knows what I drive) - so he admitted to stalking me, to trying to scare me, and threatened to physically assault my husband - and the whole conversation was recorded.
I called the police, and a constable came over. He listened to what was going on, and while he did file a report and take my statement, he seemed to lack any compassion, even going as far as saying that I should expect this kind of treatment because of what I do for a living. Needless to say, I felt pretty disgusted after he left feeling like he invalidated my concerns simply because he had judgements about my career. The next day, I hop on twitter only to see that my address and real name has been posted all over twitter for my fans and strangers to see. It was posted by an anonymous name, but I am 100% positive it was Mikes doing. Flash forward a few days, after the constable contacted the MI police to go over to Mikes house, he finally contacted me again. Mike claimed to the police that all of this was over the money I owe him (which it wasn't, it wasn't even mentioned that night, and like I said, we had a payment plan agreed upon) Now apparently I have no legal rights because of the "civil issue" Mike is claiming. I am not able to obtain a restraining order, or press charges against him because I owe him money, even though we have a documented payment plan set in place.
So basically, what I need to know is - do I have any rights to my personal safety? Is there anything I can do? I know its probably difficult because I live in Canada and he's in the US, but he's literally two hours away from me, I live close to the border and so does he. I am very concerned for my safety. What can I do?
They were the first people I contacted yes, however they told me in order for me to do anything, I'd need to work with my local law enforcement first and work through them. Being Canadian, it seems I can't recieve help from MI state police unless I have my local law enforcement working with me.
Thank you so much, I appreciate your help more than you know. You're the only person who seems to agree with my feelings...so thank you. I'll look into the advice you recommended.
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