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I'm sorry to hear about your situation.
You ask whether Illinois is a no fault divorce state. The answer is yes. However, based on what you stated, I'm a little unclear on whether that is the only question you want answered or whether you have other questions.
Are you represented by an attorney any more?
what age does your child have 2 b.if he refuses 2 not want 2 visit with his father. during the time it is his fathers visitation?how do i keep him from taking marital property prematurely b4 the judge awards who gets what?im worried if the courts award us joint custody.then he will not have 2 pay child support.how do i get him 2 keep from sending harrassing txt messages using the prop exclusively & harrassing me while hes on the property?how do i get him 2 continue 2 pay 4 our sons orthodonics so we wont get ser charged every month & where our sons teeth dont shift out of place due to the fact. he was ready 4 phase 2 6 2 8 mo. ago?how do i get him 2 stop handing me these excess bills that his insurance doesent cover including some utility bills he was ordered 2 pay on. i need 2 move out of the home & into the city in an apartment.beings i was awarded no maintance. the house is 13yrs old & is on the horrizon of starting 2 need improvements such as carpet painting new hot water heater that started leaking last year etc...& i want 2 get out while there is still equity in the home in case the housing market takes another dive & then we will wind up oweing more on the house than what its worth.our son needs medical attention ive been trying 2 seek out a homeopathic alt.to help him & my husband keeps putting road blocks in our way so to speek. by continueously signing him up for sports games tryouts practices & camps etc.ive had 2 cancel our sons dr. apts twice & have not been able 2 reschedule. he says there is nothing wrong with him.hes one of those above the law kinda guys.hes made the remark i dont work 4 the system i have the system work 4 me.& he said if i loose [meaning him] we all loose. he is a big renound figure in the town in which he works & is a man of stature & prominance.do 2 the fact he was a head varisity coach in one of the most high paying school dist. in southern illinois. & brought home titles for the highschool they have never seen b4 in the whole history that the school has been there. hes been in newspapers & on tv & reporters calling the house.& colleges wanting 2 recruit him to come & coach for them.so im affraid im up against a guy who is going 2 get by with murder in every facit of the way except for the act itself. he is also trying 2 get custody of our 12 yr. old son.hes extremely competive. he cant stand 2 loose hes strategic & minupulative.ps yes i do still have a lawyer
Your son does not get to choose not to see his father if his father has visitation or joint custody rights.
You need to ask the court for order telling your ex that he cannot take away any marital property before the divorce. You also need to ask the court to award you child support. If your ex chooses not to pay the child support, you must alert the state, which will put a lien on his wages and bank accounts.
In regard to your need of money, you need to ask the court that your ex be ordered to pay you spousal support and maintenance.
The issues regarding your son being signed up for sports, etc., are also decisions you can ask that the court grant to you. However, a lot of this stuff requires you standing up to him.
You need to stand up to him and demand what is right and what you want. If you don't like what he is doing, then you need to tell him so. Tell him in writing if you can't say it to his face. You need to tell your lawyer exactly what you want: custody, child support and spousal maintenance.
Your lawyer will ask the court to grant these to you. The law protects you, but you have to stand up and ask for it. I know you are worried, and a divorce can be very scary and hard, but the best thing you can do is move forward and be brave.
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So is that a myth? That if your child is @ the age of 13.He still has to see his father weather he wants to or not on visitation weekends. Friends & realatives are telling me this not to be true. Including some of these who are divorced with children themselves.Back to the question of Illinois being a no fault state.So if hes clearly @ fault by leaving the family. Withdrawing all the families finances away from what use to be our joint checking acct. Weather it was before or after he served me the divorce papers. Caused incoming floating bills for the house to bounce & the fees were taken out of my ssd. He was told specifically by the ss office not to touch a one dime of my ssd but he did by removing his entire work chk. Which i dont know if that was leagle or not for him to do. Cheated on me. Lied. Has commited fraud against me. Charged up credit cards i didnt know he had & i was ordered to pay 1/2 min on those cards .Stealing marital property.Has been using the property exclusively.Shuts off pilot lite in the winter & raises the thermostat in the summer. Comes in and takes pictures of my personal notes & pictures of if our pets had an accident in the house. Or if there is a bag of trash on the counter.My sons leg getting flee bites. Also he stopped paying on some of the ulilities that he was ordered to pay on etc...So even though i have the facts & pictures & receits & dates. All this is going to amount to in the end is we split everything 50/50? I get the same consequence as he does when this divorce comes to an end?I just recieve ssd & what the judge ordered him to pay me in child support a month, along with him to continue paying on the morgage & utilities. which i stated earlier that hes stopped paying on some of those.The courts ordered him to pay no more than that beings they said there wasnt enough funds left to pay out any additional money for spousal maintance or house maintance. meanwhile there r bills mounding up including ser charges for not paying on them. & consequences of our sons orthodontics not being on schedule.also i can not order my perscriptions thru express script. which i vitally need. I have prexisting conditions & if he takes me off his work insurance, then most co. will not insure me are, if they do i will have to pay hi premiums & deductable & pay for seperate services. Not like before where my husbands insurance is on a group plan. The house is falling apart. It needs a new hot water heater & updates.My husband makes close to 100 grand a year.He has all kinds of freed up money beings he has taken away alot of services from myself daughter & son. Along with signing our son up for hi $ select teams going on outings with his girlfriend buying her & our children expensive gifts.traveling an hr & a 1/2 round trip to come to our property constantly weather its his his turn to visit or not in his 8cylnder truck. giving the kids mall money & bet money etc... & how do you prove all that?This divorce could go on for another two years. what do i do in between time?I could demand from my lawyer that he orders the court to start paying me immediately for spousal maintance & other maintances for the property before this divorce is over, but if the courts said there was no additional money in temp court the 1st time. what are they going to say any different this time?Also he has quit his head coaches job because he is trying to fight for custody of our son. Please help me. I dont know what else to do.ps am i allowed to open his mail if im still married to him?
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