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My sister has power of attorney for my mom. My sister has moved my mother into an assisted living facility. My mom has dementia, but is still capable of taking care of herself, as long as she has someone to remind her. My sister says the reason she put mom there was because she didn't want to find anyone to be with mom a few hours each day -mainly to make sure mom takes her medication and eats. My mom is very upset that my sister moved her, in less than an hour, out of her house to an assisted living facility. Mom has been there 3 weeks. My sister will not speak to me or my other sister, and when we visit mom, the staff seems to be watching us very carefully as if we might try to take mom away. Sister with the POA has also placed mom's house for sale. My mother does not want the sister with POA or her family to visit with her. Mom is especially upset with my sister's husband - the sister with POA -. She says he makes fun of her and then tells her to laugh it off because she will forget it anyway. My sister with the POA will not tell us how much money mom has or if she pursued other avenues about what was best for mom. She says she has POA and will do what she wants with mom. I understand that is true, but now my other sister and I are finding out this sister continually mentally abuses mom and tells her to get used to it as well as spending money on things mom doesn't need or want. Mom is afraid of this sister and her husband, but will not confront them or tell the staff at the facility. I live in Pennsylvania, but my other sister lives 1 block from the house mom lived in. What can we do to contest the POA? Or should we report my sister with the POA for elderly abuse.
Optional Information: Country relating to Question: United StatesState (if USA): IllinoisWhat have you tried so far?: Talked to Illinois Omsbudman for guidance on assisted living. Talked to other family members for information. Talked to facility to express my concerns. Talked to other people in the industry. They suggested we contest the power of attorney
Thanks for your question and good afternoon.My sympathy for your dilemma here.
You can report the sister here for elder exploitation and abuse.You can seek a guardianship for your mother as well.It appears that your sister has exploited her financially and possible abuse as well.
what kind of proof do we need?
Here is the Elder Abuse hotline for Illinois for you to call and report it.
there was no number in your text?
You don't always have all the proof.The state here would interview her and seek financial records.They may also help with a guardianship.They also refer to law enforcement if they identify possible crimes.
It is her on this page.
http://www.state.il.us/aging/1abuselegal/abuse_reporting.htm
Elder Abuse Hotline: 1-866-800-1409
oh ok. thank you. we have hesitated in reporting this as she is our sister, but mom deserves to be taken care of and enjoy herself.
Here is the law that forbids Elder Abuse.
http://www.ilga.gov/legislation/ilcs/ilcs3.asp?ActID=1452&ChapAct=320%26nbsp%3BILCS%26nbsp%3B20%2F&ChapterID=31&ChapterName=AGING&ActName=Elder+Abuse+and+Neglect+Act.
thank you so much. my other sister and i will take it from here
You can see if the state will help you with a guardianship.Good luck
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