I am in an unfortunate situation with my 9 year old son. He has been abused by his mother since he was just a few months old. It has taken a toll on him. Mainly, his doctors have done everything they can to avoid the whole abuse thing. I didn't know about the abuse until he told me when he was 6 years old. I have discovered through pictures, videos, doctors records, etc. that it was always happening and it was mainly blows to the head. Eventually, he started to have many bacterial infections. To make a long story short- the repeated blows to the head led to him getting sinusitis which showed up on a ct scan that I took him in for. The doctors did nothing to treat this. That untreated sinusitis led to many episodes of meningitis that were "partially" treated and all diagnosed as some other bacterial infection (pharyngitis, strep throat). So, with him only being partially treated, he began to have many neurological problems and many, many more illnesses, and the bacteria went to the roots of his teeth and rotted 8 teeth out. They never tested him for meningitis and have been blocking me from getting him an MRI for a couple years now. My son has many problems and these doctors absolutely have committed malpractice. I am currently and finally getting a lawyer to look at it. The problem has always been that his mother knows that she caused all this and has unbelievably been able to completely control everything by getting my time with my son taken away and refusing important tests that his doctors suggest but she refuses. Right now, my son's doctors and my ex are definetly hand in glove together in trying to cover this up and make it go away. The doctors reason is that they missed meningitis and they know it. My ex's reason is that she knows she caused it by the years of repeated blows to the head. I have much, much evidence and I know with the right experts can prove all this. However, it is my son's doctors that are truly responsible for missing all this and they have been ridiculous in not testing my son. They are the ones I want to sue. I have no desire to have my ex thrown in jail for child abuse as that would not be what my son would want and I have nothing to gain by it however much I would love to see her pay for what she has done. I have mediation with my ex tomorrow to hopefully restore our visitation with my son. My question is- 1. Should I ask her to team up with me and sue the doctors? If I don't persue child abuse charges on her, will the doctors try to blame her for refusing tests and neglecting our son? If abuse caused all this, how does that affect a malpractice case of the doctors not testing and treating him properly? You know, because the doctors were lied to by the mother many times however they totally ignored my many legitimate concerns many times and I was right all along. Do I have a better case against the doctors with or without my ex? And with or without child abuse charges against my ex? (for the malpractice case)

Thanks for your answer. That helps. There were only a couple times that my ex refused tests. But can the doctors allow her to refuse when she is not medically trained? There are many, many more times that they simply ignored the signs of abuse and did nothing or incorrectly diagnose him with some other illness when it was actually head trauma all along. Thanks