I would suggest that you and your siblings need to decide if you prefer to abide by your father's wishes or to properly care for him, it does not appear that you can do both.
Candidly, the health issues that you have described sound like some form of mental illness and I suspect his condition will continue to worsen. Your family should seriously consider having a guardian appointed. A guardian is similar to a POA in that it allows the family to provide for your father's care. However, it is much more thorough as it would effectively put someone in the position of fully providing for the care of your father, it would be much like a parent having control over a minor child.
If you and your family is interested in obtaining a guardianship, you could pursue that remedy by hiring a family law attorney in your father's location or by going to the local clerk of court to obtain the template documents. If you proceed on your own, you could fill out the documents, file them with the clerk of the court and then begin the process.
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The process would begin by filing a petition for guardianship. The petition would need to be served on all interested parties (generally all family members). After the petition is filed, the court would require an evaluation by mental health experts of your father. Once the evaluation is completed, a hearing would be set and it would then be up to the judge as to whether a guardian needed to be appointed.
No, it would be sufficient to serve notice upon the adult children of your father.
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