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Would the court generally agree that 12 years old is too young for a girl to begin dating or would I need to have a psychologist back me up with my petition to limit visitation?
I thought of another question relating to this situation.
I have 2 other children with my ex-husband in addition to my 12-year old daughter we discussed last night. They are 11 (daughter) and 14 (son).
Our divorce agreement only allows my ex visitation every other weekend.
My son has Aspergers and severe dyslexia and is attending private school. I have for the past several months allowed my son to stay with my ex for more time than the divorce agreement specifies. (e.g. every other week - not just every other weekend) so he could help with transportation to private school.
In light of my discovery this weekend of secrets that my ex has been trying to keep from me (12-yr old daughter dating and more I keep discovering the more I dig), would it be wise of me to revert back to the visitation schedule as written in the divorce agreement while I assess the depth of the dishonesty and secrets and whether there is further information relating to my other children that he is keeping from me? This is what I would like to do but want to first understand what if any impact it would have.
Incidentally, I mentioned I have had sole legal custody for 10 years, but my ex is working to get joint custody in order to have more control of the children. I am contesting it for several reasons I won't go into here. But I have tried to be generous wth visitation to show that the custody plan in place now works fine and doesn't need to be changed. Is the dishonesty above a good enough reason to revert to the court-mandated visitation schedule and will it help or hurt my ex's case in his attempt for joint custody?
How would the court view this? What do you recommend?
If I do revert strictly to the "every other week" visitation schedule while I assess the situation, what is the best way to communicate that to my ex?
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