Last December a neighbor ask if I would follow him to a Harley Davidson store where he was taking his Harley to be stored for the winter, this was not the first time he ask me to accompany him to Harley Davidson and I agreed since it was no problem.
After storing his Harley he went to the retail shop to purchase a xmas gift for his mother a cookie jar i believe.
After he purchased the gift the clerk while wrapping his gift began aggressively flirting with this person, part of her verbal flirting was to make the comment multiple times directed at him that implied he was gay.
She stated so many times that he turned to me and made the comment the next time i come into this store I am going to count the number of times she calls me gay.
Her comment to be exact was "That's so gay", being a gay man I find this comment extremely hurtful. Now mind you my neighbor knew of my sexual persuasion being he knew that I am gay.
When she continued her tirade and continued to repeat the phrase even after I told her that her comments are illegal and that I am gay and I would prefer her to cease with the comment or she would be facing potential legal action if she made the comment again I basically threatened to file a discrimination lawsuit.
She then turned to me and stated of yeah well if that is the truth I can be a real bitch, which I did not know what she meant by it but I took it as a threat of physical harm to me. I became very upset.
When we left the store I was so angry and upset I wanted to go back into the store and ask for the manager and report her actions, however my neighbor talked me out of making a scene even though I was clearly very emotionally distraught.
Not wanting to have an escalating scene I agreed to think it through but I could not let it go, we where suppose to go out for dinner and drinks that evening but we ended up going home and I spent the night very angry and disgusted, so I called the store from my home the same evening and spoke with the manager and reported the situation.
Subsequently the situation got to the clerks manager as the manger who I spoke with down played the incident and I did not feel I was going to get any relief from speaking with this person who gave me his e-mail and asked that I send him the particulars and exactly what had occurred. Which I did.
Subsequently her manger was made aware of the situation and sent me a letter of apology and talked up how wonderful this employee
was and blah, blah.
I made my case to the manager and was subsequently sent a letter of apology from the Harley employee who asked that i return to the store so she could apologize in person, yeah like I was going back in that store.
I flatly refused to go back to the store and personally don't think I could never go back into another Harley store for the rest of my life as it was like something out of a kkk rally which I stated in my complaint to the manger.
I subsequently offered an apology from her manger who was not in the store that evening and she told me that the employee would be required to attend some sort of training regarding discrimination.
But I am still very pissed as this was a very ugly situation that I cannot put into words, I have the e-mail from the clerk offering the apology, and the e-mail from Harley Davidson informing that this employee would be made to go to discrimination training and apology.
I don't think this is enough, and the only reason why I did not pursue this was because I did not want to have a strained relationship with my neighbor but the damage has already been done.
I don't consider my neighbor a friend any longer because he stood up for the clerk even though he knew I was emotionally traumatized. We no longer are close he is a Marine with Marine One Detachment and I did not want to make trouble for him.
But I am still hurting about this whole f**king mess.