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The restraining order would be a public document so there would be no restriction on her distributing copies.
Legally, if she is in your presence, you can be arrested and charged with violating the RO. The odd thing about ROs is that they only apply one way. You are prohibited from having contact with her, but there is no prohibition on her contacting you. Your best bet to keep from getting arrested would be to not let her come over or go to her place until she either got it dismissed, amended it to a "no violent contact" RO, or it expired. Even if she doesn't complain, if someone sees you together and calls the police, you will get arrested.
I have defended numerous people who made up with their partners, but the partner never got it dismissed the RO or amended it and the person was later arrested for violating the order. It is not up to the "victim" to decide when to enforce the order. It is the judge who put the order in place and only the judge can dismiss it. One actual case I had was where both parties had reciprocal ROs, were driving and got stopped together and both parties were arrested after the ROs showed up when the police ran their licenses.