I certainly wish I could give you an answer to that question. Unfortunately that will completely depend on several factors such as...
- the length of time the child has been with you
- the nature of contact the child has had with the mother
- the stability of your home
- the nature of the mother's drug abuse
- the length of her sobriety
- the stability of the mother's occupation, education, and home life
- the child's attitude about being abandoned by the mother
- the child's performance in school
- any psychological opinions about the impact of this change in the child's life
- any medical or therapeutic opinions about the mother's stability (emotional, substance abuse, etc)
- the judge's prior tendencies in similar situations
This list could go on and on. I think it is enough to say that where a mother has abandoned her child with little or no contact for six years (two thirds of her life) we cannot expect to mend this relationship overnight.. or even in a few weeks. This process will and should take months and potentially years to complete. I also do not think the judge will look favorably on the mother not wanting you to have contact with the child... you have been this child's parent for two thirds of her life. It certainly would not be in the child's best interests to remove all contact. That would be the reaction of an addict... not a good mother.
I will be going offline but I will check your posting again in the morning to see if you need any other information. I wish you the very best and please feel free to reply if i can help further.