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My wife and I are preparing to divorce and there is a child

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My wife and I are preparing to divorce and there is a child custody issue. I have a job offer out of state and she is objecting to me taking them. We have not filed yet, so what would happen if I took them without cosent? I have been the primary caregiver for the last four years because of her travel. What about child support if I do that?
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Submitted: 7 years ago.
Category: Legal
Expert:  Ely replied 7 years ago.
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The Court decides on custody based on the rule of thumb of "best interest of the child." This includes, but is not limited to, general stability of the parent, financial stability, indoctrination of the child in the current school and environment, household condition and living condition of the child, other persons living in the house, etc.



The courts generally do not like to split the custody 50/50 since this is hard on the child – imagine having to move every half a year.



One parent usually becomes the main caretaker (in many states this is called the managing custodian) and the other parent becomes the "weekend" parent (often called the posessory custodian) which is every Thursday, every other weekend, and alternating holidays. The minute points of the custody can either be decided by the parties or the Court, if the parties cannot come to an agreement.



Even if a parent does not get managing custody, they are almost guaranteed the posessory custody unless they have a drug problem, alcohol dependency, or an unsafe home environment. Abuse and or neglect of the child or previous children are an almost automatic bar for even posessory custody, although supervised visitation may be granted by the Court.



The posessory parent pays child support to the managing parent, unless the managing parent declines it. All states have a preset salary percentage calculation for child support, but this can be altered if both parties agree to a lesser or higher amount or do not put child support in the orders all-together - the Court will not care.


Before there are orders, you CAN'T take the children without telling her - that's parental kidnapping. Now you can tell her "I'm taking the children" and go, but she can file for temporary orders to try to stop you and make you come back to determine custody. So, best to either file divorce now and file for temporary custody and convince the Judge that you'd be a better custodian due to the factors I raised above, OR at least file for temporary custody without even getting a divorce (you can do this). I can help you find an affordable attorney in your area if you'd like.

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Customer: replied 7 years ago.
So if I am awarded primary custody, does that mean I can move them?
Expert:  Ely replied 7 years ago.
CORRECT - if it's temporary custody, but then you would have to come back to finish up the divorce, or wait until the divorce is done (60 days from filing and you can set a day for hearing) and then get permanent custodianship, and move.

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Customer: replied 7 years ago.
So if I am awarded primary custody, can I move them.
Expert:  Ely replied 7 years ago.
YES, unless she asks for and gets a "geographical restriction" against you, but that's usually NOT doable, unless you show a tendency to kidnap the children abroad or something. So, 99% YES you can and will be able to move. :)

Best of luck in your matter. I'm here if you need any more clarification or follow up info.



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